Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Valentine's Day

I've said it once I'll say it again, I'm not a huge fan of Valentine's Day.  I'm sure in some degree it is because I am a bit bitter and jaded but honestly it just isn't the same as it was when you were little.  I love doing valentines for everyone, it was fun!  No stress, no expectations, no hurt feelings. Now it feels different.  Single folk feel left out, sad, lonely, unloved; guys feel obligated to get their girlfriends/wives flowers, chocolate, jewelry, fancy dinner.  let's be honest of a second, this is a Hallmark holiday - which is fine and maybe it is more for married couples with children to have an excuse to have date night and actually take the time out for one another instead of constantly focusing on the children. Or it gives the less romantic of guys a reminder or an excuse to be romantic. 

I - I just wonder what is wrong with wanting to feel loved/romanced or get Valentine day like treats unexpectedly throughout the year.  

Don't get me wrong, I love flowers, being taken out, feeling loved & appreciated - hello, who doesn't!? It still just goes back to the thought of obligation vs. desire for me.  Maybe it is a deep rooted psychological fear, thought, or perception I've always had and I need to seek counseling for (haha joking - kinda?) but I've never wanted to make someone feel obligated to feel a certain way when they just aren't there - think love the person where they are at not where you want them to be.  

I'm sure one day when I'm married and have rugrats, I will view this day differently but right now... I think I love the idea of unconditional love and random acts of romance.